Hello Lovelies! How are you today? Thought I'd share a picture of me from a friend's wedding that makes me laugh far too much!
Sexy, no? If that doesn't make you chuckle... I honestly don't know what will.
Today I'm going to continue the Embracing a Healthier Lifestyle series that I started a little while back. If you don't know what I'm talking about, this is the series so far:
EAHL Part One: Catching the Running Bug
EAHL Part Two: Thinking Big, Dreaming Big
Today I want to talk about something that I'm really guilty of doing all the time. It's not a healthy habit, and it's one that I'm trying my hardest to lay to one side in order to live a healthy, happy life.
I'm a chronic comparer.
I compare myself to everyone I meet, see or interact with. I don't even have to think about it, I just do it. Most of the time, I conclude that they are prettier/thinner/cleverer/wiser/cooler/better than me. I convince myself that I'm an utter idiot and that I've got on their nerves before they've even had a chance to know me. I manage to convince myself that if I were that person, my life would be a lot more awesome and a heck of a lot easier.
You know what though? It has got to stop.
You see, being a chronic comparer does you no good if your aim is to have a happy, healthy life. In fact, if I'm going to live my life constantly striving to be someone else, I might as well stop now because its never going to happen. I am who I am and that is that. Yes, I can make some changes here and there - a more defined upper body by working that area out a little more, a slightly faster pace by introducing a little speed work but at the end of the day, I am me and that's ok :) In fact it's more than ok - it's awesome!
The other truly awful thing about being a chronic comparer is that it shows zero respect or love to the person you're comparing yourself to. It makes you jealous of them, anxious about talking to them - heck it can even make you forget that this superhuman you're comparing yourself to isn't actually a superhuman at all, just a normal human being with their own share of trouble and strife. Instead of loving, supporting and encouraging them, chronic comparers end up being pretty mean about the people we call our friends. Even if it's only in your own head, that grumpy jealousy isn't nice!
So what am I going to do? I'm going to lay my chronic comparison to bed and I've got a couple of tools to help me do it:
1. When I see something I admire about another person, I will complement them on it
2. If I find myself starting to compare myself or worry about not being that person, I'll remind myself that I am who I am and that's just plain awesome (I might even have to resort to carrying around a picture of myself in that moustache...)
3. If the thing I'm comparing is a reasonable goal, I will try to introduce it into my lifestyle. So for example: I notice that a friend eats waaay more fruit and veg than I do. Instead of getting jealous and beating myself up, I'll head to the shops, buy some fruit and veg and eat it! Makes sense doesn't it?!
Ta-daaaa, easy as one-two-three!
Are you a chronic comparer (or a recovered chronic comparer)?
What steps can you introduce to stop yourself falling into the trap?